Review of Shades of Kink via Lisa Ling's 'Our America'

Greetings and Salutations curiously kinky or versed kinksters.

I just finished watching Lisa Ling's 'Our America' episode on Shades of Kink and it was ok.  I mean how much can one cover in just one 'session'.  So many layers so little time and definitely so little of the attention span with most of the masses.  

Most folks like their stories fed to them in shiny snazzy spiritedly stupendous dishes served hot and spicy & they have to SEE IT (oye vey to the 'lead by sight' folks).  But pardon me if I can say this oh so boldly to you, THIS & all other TDD entries isn't about you and how 'easy' you need your elixirs to go down. Or how to excite the masses.  What THIS is about and what it has always been about is me submitting to your conscious and opening up a personal (maybe even entertaining view) accounts of thinking/being/doing that most of the masses only imagine. Or rather the new influx of folks who have become curiously little kitties by a best selling fantasy book that most 'surface folk' or known as 'vanilla' think IS what BDSM is all about.  

Now I'm not going to throw overt 'shade' on anyone's preferential parade on how they see/feel/engage in kinky exercises.  But when one says, "this could be shocking"  and I see some of the same things that are in 'fantasy novels', it's like, "oooookay". But then again, I'm a sadist in my 'public' kink play/practiced purveyorship.  I also know there are still plenty of people who are dismissive towards this subject and scoff at the notion that people actually do things like this.  

Anyway, I haven't delved into the areas of couples play in depth within The Domme Diares (season 1 or 2) & what I found most intriguing about Lisa Ling's look into BDSM, was this lovely couple: 

The description of the segment: While seemingly vanilla couple Monica and Keith both enjoy BDSM, Monica struggles to assume the submissive role when they play. In an attempt to work the kinks out of their kink, they head to "La Domaine," a BDSM bed and breakfast where they receive advice from two experts in domination and submission.

I've played with couples quite a few times.  Whether it was instructing them on how to use kink toys properly, how to assert Dominance and maintain receptivity while in a scene, or dominating both. If they were new to the scene, just getting the couples to talk not only about their fantasy, but building a dialog about their feelings outside of kink along watching them interact once their guards were let down has always been a beautiful thing to be a part of.  

However, I couldn't help but notice that there's also another spectrum of BDSM that still remained untold and that is BDSM from a POC (people of color) perspective.  Yes, the catalyst are some of the same things but there's still a different internal sensibility in how some POC have become introduced to it and how some choose to play (in particular black people because I can speak from that perspective being a black woman who's into kink).  Our voices are very prevalent to the pot because some of us have had hindered experiences due to what slavery/bondage means from a psychological sociological political view vs intimacies that incorporate certain areas of play (using apparatuses such as whips, chains, ropes, plantation styled handcuffs, degradation along with the dynamics of a 'Master' 'slave' relationships etc...) Along with some of the sexual stigmas associated with other areas of play (e.g. straight black men who enjoy Dominance & strap play from a woman would be a major topic of discussion as it veers into what is masculinity vs sexuality vs  kinky proclivities).
Personally, I do not currently 'own' any 'slaves' and when I had a few private subs, I never referred to them that way. They were my pets, subs, bottom boys, fuck-nuggets (if they misbehaved) amongst a few other choice names I called them.  I still don't subscribe to the term 'slave' because of my own sensibilities within that subject matter in it's entirety outside of kink.

I personally would like to see these explored on a national scale with the high def quality & sensitive care Lisa Ling conveyed on the white hand side.  

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Youtube clip is from Lisa Ling's Our America; Shades of Kink which is on OWN Network (check your local listings).